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About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .

Dementia: Coming Home

  It is now a week since Maureen’s discharge from the Konar Suite.  She is beginning to settle down to being back home after three weeks in an Acute Mental Health Unit.  Just as her Consultant stressed her presentation is subject … Continue reading

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Emails between friends

This week I was asked to provide some information about one of DAI’s founding members, the late Richard Taylor Ph.D. I headed to my files (word and emails) simply titled: Richard Taylor. It was an opportunity to reflect when not feeling…

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Dementia: A Beauty From Iceland

When I was looking for some new clothes for Maureen last week I stumbled on this little beauty in Iceland -The Food Warehouse.  It is amazing value for £29.99 and an excellent reminder of the good old days. I used it … Continue reading

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Dementia: Together Again

This is one of our favourites from Emmylou: We had a lovely day yesterday.  Maureen was so pleased to see her GP after three weeks with ‘Witch Doctors and magic spells’ on the Konar Suite. She amazed me in the … Continue reading

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Dementia: Home At Last

Maureen came home from the Konar Suite yesterday afternoon. I intend to spend a minimal amount of time on social media over the next few days. My priority is to help Maureen settle to being back home after being in an … Continue reading

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Dementia: Reality Check

On Saturday morning I received a copy of the assessments that had taken place to determine Maureen’s mental capacity.  These documents make sobering reading.   They are a stark reminder that Maureen no longer has any concept of person, place or time.  … Continue reading

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Dementia: Kindness and Compassion

Today’s teaching from Dekyong is very appropriate: When I called in to see Maureen yesterday morning she was fast asleep in bed. She looked so peaceful that I saw no point in waking her. A member of staff suggested that I … Continue reading

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Dementia: I’m Not To Talk About It

Maureen has now been declared fit for discharge from the Konar Suite The Multi-Disciplinary Team agreed yesterday that it was in her Best Interest to come home: subject to a robust Care Package being put in place. I now have to learn … Continue reading

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Dementia: Konar – It’s A Kind Of Magic!

When I arrived to visit Maureen yesterday morning a member of staff said you should see your ‘Polynesian Princess today’.  When I saw her looking stunning and happily singing along to the background music I realised I had been on … Continue reading

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Dementia: Picking Your Battles

I have been waging a battle all week to get Maureen out of the Konar Suite ASAP.  It has disappointed me that she remains in an Acute Mental Health Unit a week after her assessment has been completed.  Patience does … Continue reading

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