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About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .

Demenia: ‘Coming In From The Cold’

Reggae has always had great resonance for us.  The words of the above number have great significance in our household this morning: Maureen’s cold broke yesterday.  I have never been so pleased in my life to see a loved on … Continue reading

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Dementia: Medication Is Not The Solution

Posted at 3 am: My early morning greeting from Maureen was not easy to handle.  She woke after we had both had a couple of hours rest wanting to go to the toilet.  I tried to direct her without success … Continue reading

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Alzheimer’s . . . from the Daughter / Dad Perspective

Originally posted on Alzheimer's: The Journey:
In honor of World Alzheimer’s Month, my daughter and I were asked to write a few words as to what it’s like to be a Dad with Alzheimer’s and a Daughter of a…

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Dementia: 11 Things To Start Doing For Yourself

A helpful creed to live by from the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Centre: I’m am breathing properly, softly and deeply as I try to figure out where the hosepipe issue has come from.  For the second morning running, Maureen has been scared … Continue reading

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Dementia: Time For Change

George Rook made a good point in his <BLOG> yesterday:  there need to be some radical changes in how we approach dementia in this country.  There is only one thing I would add to George’s excellent post: DEMENTIA IS NOT A … Continue reading

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Dementia: Give Us Just A Little More Time

  I have been pressing for a review of Maureen presentation.  This has resulted in the suggestions that a Best Interest Meeting is the way forward.  I’m not sure that a BIM is needed after how she presented yesterday: She chatted … Continue reading

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Dementia: ‘They All Know Us’

I often adopt a Citizen Khan approach to our life: frequently telling Maureen ‘they all know us’.  Once again the locals came to my rescue yesterday afternoon when Maureen gave me the slip.  It was another one of those farcical events … Continue reading

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Dementia: Positive Risk Taking

After a great deal of thought, and frequently changing my mind, I have decided to go for it this morning:  When I first heard that two family members and their four children wanted to visit today I was aghast.  My … Continue reading

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Dementia: ‘Suffering Is Hallucination’

Labelling anyone with dementia as a sufferer is totally unacceptable.  This lesson from Dekyong puts the whole issue of suffering into a Buddhist perspective:

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Dementia: Too Much Pressure

Posted at 3.30 am Today’s music is particularly pertinent: Our house is now a complete mess: nothing like the order that Maureen has lived in all of her life.  We emptied our dining room so the walls and ceiling could be … Continue reading

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