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About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .

Dementia: I Got Them Off!

I’m counting my blessings following some positive developments this week, culminating in ‘getting them off Maureen’ this morning. Our New Girls are both excellent additions to our team of carers and our Agencies are on board with sending the same … Continue reading

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Dementia: Creating Confusion

It would be simplistic to label Maureen’s behaviour towards her carers in the last 24 hours as challenging.  She was hostile and uncooperative during the time Girl Tuesday was here.  She carried on in a similar vein with Our Night Sitter … Continue reading

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Dementia: ‘Take Your Time’

This song from Buddy Holly came to mind when Maureen woke today at 4.30am: Maureen’s early morning presentation gave me hope that my dear wife had come back. She had made her way up to the marital bedroom last night as I … Continue reading

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Dementia: Tying Up Loose Ends

Things went relatively well yesterday as I tied up a few loose ends: I tidied up the layout of my Blog to make it more user-friendly. I contacted the Agency of New Girl/Sat and Sun to praise her work. I … Continue reading

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Dementia: Seeking Firmer Ground

It has taken our builders a couple of weeks to prepare the ground for our Day Room.  The footings have now been dug, the concrete poured, and bricklaying will begin in earnest today.  As I have watched their painstaking work I … Continue reading

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Dementia: Heads Up Pays Off

My ad-hoc induction of a new carer paid off yesterday, as on my return from the Leisure Centre Maureen was keen to introduce me to ‘the new lady’.  The new kid on the block had thanked me earlier for giving her … Continue reading

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Dementia: ‘Just Go For It!’

Girl Tuesday afternoon, now also Our Night Sitter (ONS) arrived last night on schedule at 10 pm for the beginning of her shift.  Maureen was asleep on the couch when she arrived so I let her in and hot-footed it upstairs to … Continue reading

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