Dementia: Action Man Returns

Image result for action man picturesMaureen often asks me: ‘what’s the plan Action Man?’  So I took on the mantel yesterday in an attempt to move things in a positive direction.

Once it was confirmed that Maureen had a UTI  I  encouraged the Practice Nurse to outline a formula for recovery:

  • Antibiotics to be taken for a week.
  • Eight glasses of water to be drunk daily.
  • A shower or a bath to be taken three times a week

This formula complemented our early morning pledge:

  • To sleep together in the marital bed at night.

Girl Monday morning also gave me some much-needed coaching:

  • To stop giving Maureen options as she can no longer make choices.

The support we received from professional staff yesterday was of a really high standard.  Early in the morning, a Duty Officer from Social Services contacted me as our Key Worker was not working.  Within a short period of time, she managed to secure and arrange two-hour afternoon carer sits for the remainder of the week.  The added bonus being that this additional support would be with known faces.  Throughout the day other professional staff weighed in with support and advice.

It will take a couple of days before Maureen’s medication starts to kick in.  With luck, things will then move in a positive direction – providing ‘Action Man’ remains well enough to deliver the goods!

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About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .
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4 Responses to Dementia: Action Man Returns

  1. Janet says:

    It is great to hear you had a good day. Maureen is lucky to have Action Man. Re the coaching on giving options, it can be difficult though my advice would be not to give up offering choices but instead consider the way those choices are offered. For instance perhaps it is difficult for Maureen to understand the words fully though if you were to keep choices to 1 or 2, no more than 3 and show her the choices, she may be able to choose. Each day is different though It is worth trying this so she continues to be involved as much as possible.

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    • AmazingSusan says:

      While each person is different, there came a point with my mom that offering choices caused her MORE stress than not. If offered a choice, she would become visibly distressed and agitated and then after a relatively long time would say “I don’t know” in frustration. Because they had been told it was a good thing and preferred to offer choices, some care workers insisted on continuing to offer her choices even though doing so clearly distressed her. I found it was better to simply say for example: “I know you love apple juice, how about some apple juice?” To which she could reply either yes or no, which I could then work with. Yes, it’s important for people to be involved and make their own decisions for as long as possible, but we need to take our cues from them and do what best for them not use protocols we’ve been taught are the “right ways” to do things. Sticking to “rules” for the sake of it and/or forcing issues that cause someone to feel anxious are counterproductive imho.

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  2. Remember Me says:

    Not only is each day different Janet, as you know with vascular dementia things can change in a moment. Giving up on Maureen’s potential isn’t something within my DNA: as you will see from my abhorrence of Prescribed Disengagement (Swaffer) as an approach to dementia!

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