Maureen asserted throughout yesterday her right to remain at home. Despite various attempts to ease her into Ashgrove Care Home, she was adamant that she wanted to stay in her own home. As she said: ‘I’ve done nothing wrong, I’m not a criminal: you can’t make me go anywhere’. She also said that if I was struggling to sleep, I was the one who needed help and should move out to allow her own family to look after her.
There is no doubt that Maureen remains a very intelligent woman, able to use logic and rational thought. Her arguments for staying in her own home were perfectly understandable considering her experience of Care Homes. I had to remove her from Ladysmith Road bruised and broken on her birthday. She escaped from Royal Court and Ashgrove as she hates being locked in anywhere. Her faltering short-term memory means that she can’t remember the details of her incarceration but the scars are there in her emotional memory.
Maureen was afraid to go into a deep sleep last night for fear of being taken away. She is now worried if I’m out of sight. Therefore, we have to be very careful this morning to ensure that our next moves don’t push her over the edge. Despite being exhausted I intend to help Maureen hold the line on staying in her own home. There is no simple solution to the current impasse but I will not collude with any plans to deprive my wife of her liberty.
Although I’m exhausted and would love to be enjoying planned respite, I intend to help Maureen hold the line on staying in her own home. There is no simple solution to the current impasse but I will not collude with any plans to deprive my wife of her liberty.
Gary our social worker will be here this morning. It is his turn to try to move things forward. Sue from the Home Treatment Team could get no change out of Maureen yesterday, despite her success a few weeks ago. After more than half an hour she recommended backing off to avoid further distress. As Sue left, she commented how much Maureen had deteriorated since her last visit: don’t I know it!