Charlotte breezed into our lives at noon yesterday and struck up a positive chord with Maureen as soon as they met. Maureen greeted her with a lovely smile, and they were off as if they had known each other for a life-time. I stayed around for the whole time that Charlotte was here to provide an ad hoc induction to working with us.
As the afternoon progressed there were lots of opportunities for Charlotte to see Maureen in a functional mode. In some ways it helped that my antibiotics had gone missing. Thsi gave Charlotte a chance to see the absence of logic and rational thought first hand. It also gave her a stark introduction into Maureen’s ability to recall.
Charlotte stared in disbelief as Maureen repeated the same questions time and time again.: ‘what type of box were the tablets in – when did I last have them- why didn’t I phone the doctors- were they in here, there, or any where?’ and on and on. She soon realised that the information that she had been given about Maureen was sketchy, and out of date.
I have to take some responsibility for only giving Charlotte basic information, when she phoned up to introduce herself the day before. That is why I stayed around for her first visit: I will do much the same today. What concerns me is the scant information that social services pass on when they are referring clients.
It is possible that Maureen may have settled at the Day Centre on Wednesday had they known a little more about her. All they were given were name, rank and number. I think this is completely unfair on all concerned and is something I aim to address. Part of me thinks I shouldn’t have to but I will to protect my wife.
One of the outcomes of yesterday afternoon is a confirmation of my Mission Impossible Blog. Maureen remains eloquent, and can confabulate with the best of them. Therefore social services classify Maureen dementia as early onset. Anyone who sees her in functional mode, would smile at such a description of her capacity: as Charlotte did.