Dementia: ‘Do You Remember?’

There is a steep learning curve to be traversed once you become a Care Partner.  One of the key lessons t is never ask a question that is concerned with the memory of your loved one.  So phrases like : ‘do you remember?’ are a distinct no no.

Unfortunately during our little break in Nottingham the phrase ‘do you remember?’ often infected conversation .  That was inevitable with family members getting together to share their past.  On occasions, as we visited old haunts, her brother frequently posed the question.   I decided not to intervene as I heard Maureen convince herself that things had changed, and that is why she couldn’t remember.

You can be sure I will never play Do You Remember by the Scaffold even if it was amongst our vinyl!


About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .
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