I have mentioned before the words of a Consultant at the Memory Clinic following Maureen’s diagnosis: ‘You will have to get used to the new reality.’ At the time I hadn’t got a clue what he was talking about. Eighteen months down the road and Maureen’s reality can be grasped from her words below:
- ‘Other people keep moving my things from where I have left them.’
- ‘Why do people have children if they can’t afford to buy them clothes. Haven’t my parents got any money?’.
- ‘Where is my mum? Why doesn’t she come to see me?’
- ‘Why don’t my children come to see me? Don’t they know where we live?’
- ‘Have any of my family ever been here to this house?’
- ‘How do I know we are married? Where is the Marriage Certificate and wedding photos?’
- ‘Please tell me where we met?’
- ‘Where are the other people who own this house?’
- ‘Do the children know where we are going today?’
- ‘Are you going to work today?’
- ‘What day, time, month or year is it?’
The above list is only a snapshot of the new reality.
The Counsellor at our Medical Practice puts it in a nutshell.
Dementia means having no concept of PLACE, PERSON or TIME.