Dementia: The Importance of the Patter of Little Feet

I am up very early this morning for a number of reasons.  We have an exciting day ahead and I need to get things ship shape.  Lisa my eldest daughter and her family will be here by noon.  They offer the prospect of another lovely start to the weekend.  Once again we will have the patter of little feet in the house as Lisa and Tapan have two beautiful daughters; Mala and Amba.  As I have mentioned before we are somewhat isolated up here in Cleethorpes and always welcome family when they want to visit.

Both of our respective families are sensitive to Maureen’s condition.  Lisa and Tapan have both experienced dementia within their own immediate families, so are used to dealing with changes in presentation of the person concerned.  Although that is not the same as living with dementia 24/7, such an awareness generally leads to sensitive responses to our current plight.  We are both excited by the prospect of their visit after a lovely experience last weekend when my sister Barbara and her son came to visit.  Maureen has mentioned, many times, how much she enjoyed being with Tim: he’s a charmer that one with his ‘favourite ladies’.

My early start to the day gives me a chance to sort out the entertainment package for two lively young girls.  Mala has said she wants to go crabbing and the gear has been in storage since last summer.  Then there is bait to be acquired if the catch is to be good.  If luck is on my side and the wind is in the right direction I might even persuade them that kite flying is fun.

As the in house chef meal planning needs to come to fruition.  I have a menu in mind with the option to go to a local pub if the going is good.  It is one of those occasions where a ‘rain check’ is needed to see if it sensible to venture out:  busy pubs at the weekend are not the best places when dementia is on board.

So full steam ahead for a fun filled few hours.  I am confident that our visitors are well aware of fluctuating energy levels and will be sensitive to the needs of the ‘old couple’ .  If we get it right it will be another one of those positive occasions that Maureen will look back on fondly in the coming week.   How will she remember if she has dementia?  Quite simply because her emotional memory is still intact and she has very fond recollections of raising her own children.

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About Remember Me

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and now has mixed dementia. Her recovery from stroke has been exceptional apart from 50% loss of peripheral vision and vascular damage. 'Dharma For Dementia' is my approach to being Maureem's Care Partner: it aims to end the suffering of 'Prescribed Disengagement' (Swaffer) .
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